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Guilt can eat away at your Confidence.....

๐บ๐‘ข๐‘–๐‘™๐‘ก, ๐‘”๐‘ข๐‘–๐‘™๐‘ก, ๐‘”๐‘ข๐‘–๐‘™๐‘ก.......

Itโ€™s that word againโ€ฆโ€ฆ

Weโ€™ve all felt itโ€ฆ

Thereโ€™s the obvious guilt you feel through impulsive actions, not thought through, often driven by primordial instinct.

They usually have short term gratifications.

It usually hurts others.

But then thereโ€™s the more subtle guilt that you feel when you put yourself first to improve yourself or your life in some way.

Do you spend the weekend on your own sorting out things that have been holding you back for months and spend some โ€œme timeโ€ to recharge your batteries, or do you agree to spend the weekend at your parentsโ€™ who have organised a full-on family get together?

Do you go away for the weekend on a course youโ€™ve wanted to do for years, or do you stay at home to help your partner host a birthday party for one of the children?

Do you move on from an unhappy relationship, or do you stay until the children have left home?

Do you, or do you??

Theyโ€™re all challenging decisions.

Often influenced by the opinion of others who will be affected by your decision.

๐บ๐‘œ๐‘–๐‘›๐‘” ๐‘“๐‘œ๐‘Ÿ ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘’๐‘Ž๐‘ ๐‘–๐‘’๐‘Ÿ ๐‘œ๐‘๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘œ๐‘› will usually backfire.

Why do you do it?

Because it feels comfortable in the short term.

But...... it will rear its head again at some point in the future.

It may cause regret later in life.

It isnโ€™t aligned with your values causing frustration and resentment.

It only appeases others in the short term.

It doesnโ€™t benefit either you or others in the long-term.

To help you make a decision guilt free, in align with your values, ask yourself if it will result inโ€ฆ.

long-term benefits for you?

long-term benefits for others?

no regret later in life?

And....... expect there to be short-term discomfort for others.

๐ต๐‘’๐‘–๐‘›๐‘” ๐‘Ž๐‘๐‘™๐‘’ ๐‘ก๐‘œ ๐‘š๐‘Ž๐‘˜๐‘’ ๐‘”๐‘ข๐‘–๐‘™๐‘ก-๐‘“๐‘Ÿ๐‘’๐‘’ ๐‘‘๐‘’๐‘๐‘–๐‘ ๐‘–๐‘œ๐‘›s ๐‘–๐‘› ๐‘ฆ๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘Ÿ ๐‘™๐‘–๐‘“๐‘’ ๐‘–๐‘  ๐‘’๐‘š๐‘๐‘œ๐‘ค๐‘’๐‘Ÿ๐‘–๐‘›๐‘”.

Interested in learning about how to make these sorts of decisions? Why not jump on a call with me and explore whether my 12wk programme, ๐†๐ฎ๐ข๐ฅ๐ญ ๐…๐ซ๐ž๐ž ๐€๐ฎ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐œ ๐…๐ฎ๐ฅ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฆ๐ž๐ง๐ญ is suitable for you.

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Dr Andrea Haas is a Confidence Coach, Hypnotherapist, EFT Practitioner based in Sherborne, Dorset

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Dr Andrea Haas is a Confidence Coach, Hypnotherapist, EFT Practitioner based in Sherborne, Dorset, supporting women toย release their limiting beliefs and habits, connect with their self-worth, and embrace a more fulfilling life.

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